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| Things learned from intergender
friendships
Mariel G. Calalo
YOU contributor
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PREMISE of this article lies on the principle that sometimes, loving a person
doesn't mean it has to be romantic and loving a person for the rest of your life
doesn't mean you have to end up marrying them. Can a man and a woman just be
friends? I'd say yes and they should be.
Hindi dahil kinaibigan ka, liligawan ka na. Not
every guy who befriends you has an ulterior motive. Get over yourself. Don't
flatter yourself. There is a reason why he befriended you, but don't
automatically assume that it's because he wants to be your so-called boyfriend.
If this will be the principle you'll follow every time someone asks you to be
his friend, you're gonna miss a great deal from the friendship.
Hindi dahil mabait sa iyo, nililigawan ka na.
There are people who are naturally sweet and kind. There are people who are
innately good and no matter how wicked you seem, they just find it so easy to be
kind to you. It doesn't mean he is courting you. Don't put yourself through
unnecessary stress trying to figure out if he's courting you or not. Because I
think if he is, you won't have to guess, you'll know and you'll be very certain
about it.
Hindi dahil he talks to you a
lot, he loves you na. You don't befriend a person if you absolutely abhor
him, right? Chances are you make sense when he talks to you, or you're probably
very patient listening to him. The two of you probably connect on some level but
why does it always have to be assumed to be romantic? Being two intelligent,
mature human beings, you need to accept that it's nice to share a cup of coffee
over a stimulating conversation, and that you don't have to automatically put
romantic connotation to it. Relieve yourself of the pressure. It's just coffee
and a shared interest.
Hindi dahil cute
ang friend mo, crush/love mo na siya. This is the most amusing thing that
hit me lately. People always assume that because your friend is cute or should I
say, hot (because cute is a word you describe your high school crush while hot
is a word you use to describe a hunk), "lakas amats mo na for repapips!" Let me
just say this, at least from my own personal experience, I'm just nearsighted, I
haven't gone blind. I can still appreciate God's creation! However, there will
always be weird things, crazy things, stupid things that will keep you, believe
me, from having a crush on him. First of all, you'd know his history with women,
enough to judge what's good for you. Second, don't you just hate it when a guy
who's absolutely always put together, who looks intelligent enough pronounces
the word country as "kawntri" and the word mango as "meynggo." Call me crazy for
judging a person just because he can't pronounce these words right. I admit, I'm
crazy.
Hindi dahil you hang out with
each other most of the time, you'd end up being boyfriend-girlfriend.
Self-explanatory... There are a thousand, no million different reasons why
things don't always turn out that way. There is no one proven formula. For all
we know, the reason why he likes hanging out with you is because he likes
getting kikay tips from you. He probably plans on being kikay himself and he
needs a mentor.
A dinner with a guy
friend does not necessarily mean equate to a date. Especially if you're
paying for your share no. Hello? Three things to consider: the place, the topic
and how the two of you actually planned to meet. First, how it was planned. If
it were a date expect that he would ask you out at least three days before the
actual date to give you some lead time, to give you the notion that you are not
just a filler on his schedule. Second, the place. If it were a real date, the
both of you would want real food and a place where you could really talk things
through. Don't go out with a guy to a movie on Friday night if you're really
serious about him. Going to a movie is more like treating him like a "filler"
just because you had nothing to do on a Friday night so you might as well go
out. Topic. Ha! You wouldn't be talking about chikang artista, chikang opisina
or argue if the one girl's boobs are real or not. You would be probably talking
about sensible, quite personal stuff.
I therefore conclude that platonic
relationships are never complicated; people just have tendencies to complicate
them.
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| and did i tell you guys that i'm a taclobanoid? http://www.taclobanoids.org
and i have a subdomain for my blog.. it's http://www.friday.taclobanoids.org
feel free to visit :) thanks, guys..
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| I'm moving to another blogsite.. The layout has not yet been fixed; my friend Anadel is still working on it. Im still using the default profile, but I'm already posting.. I wont abandon this blog though. I'll drop by every now and then =)
http://www.tabulas.com/~fridays
yeah, that's my new blog. fridays. always fridays. i love fridays. hahaha =) pathetic.
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| gloomy friday
i dunno why i feel weird today. i am not angry at anyone, i cant think of any enemy whatsoever. but im not in the best of moods either. i dunno how it happened. i went about my daily routine: class, work, net. i ate complete meals, even had a bonus kenny rogers lunch. ate mangga w/ bagoong (a daily routine), drank a bottle of softdrink. but today, i just feel different. it's as if i am unable to feel anything to its full measure, as if there were some screen that tones down the feeling. Numb.
I'll be better tomorrow. gudnyt. | | |
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Rainbow's End : Never Goodbye
Contributed by Undomiel
Thursday, November 27, 2003
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Airport goodbye scenes are never my favorite. Each farewell gets harder and harder to bear so let’s make a deal. I won’t say goodbye, instead I’ll say “later” because I don’t want to give this a sound of finality in it. I refuse to be defeated this way. We will see each other again, if not in this life, then in heaven. If I don’t say goodbye to you now, I will allow myself the luxury of thinking of you and not feeling guilty about it. That’s how I want it anyway. If we never get the chance to speak to each other again face to face, remember that my thoughts have never wandered far from you. Almost everything I see or hear or taste brings me back to you.
There was a time when I thought closure was what I needed in order to move on, whatever moving on entailed. I have come to realize that closure is just an illusion, and so is distance. The bonds we share bridges the distance between us, whether it is time, space, or dimension. My memories of you and how you have completed my existence will never fade from me. I will never need to say goodbye to you.
Only hellos and laters.
So, hello.
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taken from www.peyups.com
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